Nobody Deserves This…

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I honestly have no idea where to start on this post. I have been sitting in front of my laptop for ten minutes now just staring at my screen. My whole body aches, I have no voice, my lungs are killing me, and I just threw up.. again.. due to having multiple bugs floating around my office. Heating pad on my right knee (always), and warm fuzzy socks on my aching feet. I just keep thinking how unfair my life is. How unfair it is that I have to do this alone, and be a person I barely have enough strength to be. I feel like I have been strong for so long, there are expectations set in place that I am having a hard time living up to some days. I have been called “Super Mom” so many times, but I just don’t feel like I am as super as I can be. I know I can be more patient, but on days like today where I can barely function, it is just so hard to have patience with anyone. I feel so bad knowing my kids could have a better me, but I can’t muster up the strength to be that mom.

Today at work Jackhole freaked out on me again, and was extra rude.. again. Last Thursday I was almost positive he was going to get fired, as he had freaked out SCREAMING at a client and then at the consultant who had sold said client. It was an outburst that was BEYOND inappropriate, and he just got a slap on the wrist for it. Whatever. Man-Yelling But today he was extra Jackholish to me over something so very simple, it made no sense to argue. He was loud, and cocky. Talked down to me in front of both of our teams, and even went storming off to my boss. Imagine Dwight from The Office, only a real life version of him, and not funny at all. That is what it reminds me of. (I have jokingly started calling my boss “Michael”, to which he just rolls his eyes.) We had to sit down and have a meeting over this silly little battle, of which his argument had neither rhyme nor reason. My boss obviously agreed with me, (Not because we get along, but because I was right. He is the first to tell me when I am being silly.) and Jackhole went about his personal stomping ways, while I went off to train his wife (YES! Jackhole’s wife) on how to do proper website audits so she can join my audit team. I really like Jackhole’s wife, and I am very careful to never say anything negative about him to her, nor talk down about him to anyone who could be negatively affected by it in an unprofessional manner. He, on the other hand, does not give me the same respect and often likes to tell co-workers about how incompetent I am, and I have had ENOUGH.

This man gets away with mistreating others left and right, and with no remorse. Nobody has filed any official complaints, though many MANY people vent their frustrations of his ill treatment, and even do so to our boss. They have chosen to just take it with a grain of salt, and try to ignore him. I know I have had to be talked down about filing multiple complaints before, and only because my boss was trying to work with him to be more pleasant to work with. Each time he did, it would be ok for a day or two, and then it would go back to how it was. I do not need to be watched while I hobble off to the bathroom. yelling He does not need to get up from his desk and wander around pretending to get a drink or something else before he locates me. This man has his nose stuck so far up my ass, I swear he can tell I have intestinal issues before I do. Hell, maybe he is the cause of them. I just hate having to text the front desk to let them know I am sick in the bathroom again in case Jackhole goes wandering around and tattles to my boss that I have been up from my desk for 20 minutes during Zone time. DUDE! You tell me that if you are bleeding from your colon that you would sit for the next hour waiting for Zone time to end. That stuff is not fun, and I cannot time my illness! Just as my boss said, he doesn’t care how many times I have to run to the bathroom, as long as I am there and getting my work done, he is happy. But having this jerk lean back and listen to every.. little.. conversation I have. Every little word I speak. EVERY COMMENT I MAKE… I just can’t handle it anymore. He has caused my work area to be a hostile environment, and I no longer care about the repercussions, I am going to HR and filing a complaint.

Now, this is the same man that harasses half of the office, it is not just me. He is cruel, and menacing for no reason. He has ZERO tact when it comes to working with others in the office, and not one sales rep wants their clients to go to him. They BEG for their clients to go to others, so despite the fact that I have training, and website audits, I have been taking more and more clients. He is also not getting new clients right now due to his outburst on one last week. Come on, dude.. you hang up on a client long before you scream at them. That is just NOT good business practice right there. I am too sick, too tired, and too good at what I do to be treated this way. The other people in the office do not deserve it one bit either. I really hope this doesn’t blow up in my face, but I am going to have to file this complaint. I need something to change, and soon. Otherwise, I am going to have to accept a role in another department, or somewhere else where I won’t have to deal with this kind of treatment. Nobody deserves this… Nobody deserves what I have. Nobody deserves how he treats me. The difference is that one is an autoimmune disease, and one is an asshole.

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6 thoughts on “Nobody Deserves This…

  1. Do It. File the complaint. Don’t second guess your decision. Do it. Just do it. You know in your heart that you must do this. This person will never stop yanking your chain until you put an end to it, or at least do all you can to preserve your own dignity and personal space. What a dick wad. I would find it really hard not to punch the A-hole right in the nose. Of course that would be a perfect opportunity for him to file a complaint on you…..lol…..which you know he would love to do….. Just imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. You know he would have filed a complaint on anyone else if that sort of behavior was coming towards him…..so do it. DO. IT. Good luck. xoxo

  2. I’d put in an official complaint. Also check out Resistance at kanaicontreattaque.wordpress.com. The posts on this site have given me a lot of ideas on how to respond to abuse in the workplace.

    • Thank you. I’ll take a look. I’m having a rough day today, but he’s avoiding me. My boss is very supportive of me, so there’s a sense of safety here. I don’t feel so alone in my suffering. I have many co-workers who back me up.

  3. Sherri

    What is it that these people have that keeps us from giving them what they truly deserve? Sure, we behave because we don’t want to lose our jobs; we don’t want to lower ourselves to their level; we don’t want to validate them in any way by reacting to their asshole ways. So, they go about being assholes with impunity.
    STOP THE MADNESS!!!!! STOP THIS ASSHOLE, IN THE NAME OF ALL THAT IS RIGHT AND GOOD.
    You will probably have repercussions to deal with, as you say, but you clearly need to do something because this man is stealing what little joy you have, every day, and not only do you NOT deserve that, it is time to stand up for your own health and sanity. My guess is your coworkers will be backing you up. Somebody has to step up.
    God bless you. I hope the changes are good and timely.
    Wow. I feel better. 🙂

    • I talked to my boss this morning, and he thinks I should record a few outbursts before filing, or file today and gather solid proof later. I’m trying to decide, but i told him i can’t take it anymore and stuff needs to done.

  4. Document everything! Even if it seems silly just document the facts of his behaviour and bring to HR. You may be the only one who has enough courage to do so, but the entire office will thank you if they knew! That guy has issues going on, but certainly agree the office is no place for them. He needs to take his sh$t elsewhere! Stay Strong! You shouldn’t have to deal with him that’s harassment clear cut.

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